A few months ago, I joined Eric Richard on his podcast, Nomad on FIRE to discuss how I paid off over $17k in credit card debt while living remotely and starting my own company!
Along with Carla Rivera-Cruz, I led an online workshop for The Educator Collaborative Gathering!
I was interviewed on another podcast after #ISTE19, and wanted to share it out! Brad Shreffler, a teacher and podcaster, asked me onto his show after attending my ISTE session on integrating Culturally Relevant Teaching into EdTech!
Check it out here: https://www.bradshreffler.com/podcast/blairmishleau/
In collaboration with Hapara, I contributed to The Evolution of Monitoring ebook!
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This post was originally published on The Bilerico Project.
Earlier this month in Denver, at Creating Change: the 27th National Conference on LGBT Equality, I was on a panel titled “The State of Education in LGBTQ America,” sponsored by Teach For America’s LGBTQ Initiative. At this year’s conference, queer and transgender people of color were front and center. As a teacher, it made me think about the how people in spaces like Creating Change can have a positive impact on queer and transgender students of color.
LGBTQ students of color enrich their school communities every day. Living at the intersection of multiple identities can provide opportunities to develop critical thinking skills, empathy, and leadership for the individual student, and it can also draw out those things in other students and adults. Supporting these students contributes to a positive learning experience for all.
They could have imagined this, but they didn’t.
“We were upset for about 10 minutes,” said Nicole Thompson, Jon’s mother. “Once [my husband and I] looked at each other, we had a quiet understanding that whether he was deaf, or hearing or something else, he is our son.”
The thought of what a child cannot do is what parents usually dwell on when their baby is diagnosed as deaf. For Nicole and David Thompson, this was not the case.
The day Jon failed his hearing test at three weeks old, his family began using American Sign Language with him. That was also the day that they began looking at other opportunities for Jon, such as cochlear implants, which involve surgically inserting an electronic device to aide hearing. His family is unusual in the hearing world, as they have given him some hearing with cochlear implants, yet are well-educated about deaf culture and still want him to sign.
Their quick acceptance of Jon’s deafness wasn’t by chance. Nicole had ties to the deaf community previously. While in college, Nicole met a friend who was hard of hearing. She provided Nicole with a base of sign language.
“I had a matter of fate,” Nicole said. “I think that relationship was what helped us be okay with him being deaf.”
Throughout the entire journey, the Thompsons have stayed upbeat and optimistic. They attribute their uncommonly proactive approach throughout raising Jon to their personalities, as well as a supportive family.
Jon’s grandparents took an introductory class in ASL after the family found out he was deaf. They sign and speak with him, and don’t view his deafness as a problem.
“We have disabilities in our family,” said Evie Thompson, David’s mother. “I have a brother that’s disabled, I have a niece who’s disabled. His disability is like nothing compared to physical disabilities [such as] cerebral palsy [or] strokes. He’ll be fine.”
After the failed hearing test at Easter Seals on that crisp autumn day in 2008, they went to Giordano’s for lunch and then began making phone calls, Nicole said.
Nicole, a young and hip librarian, talks a mile a minute about her son’s diagnosis. David, while sometimes overshadowed by his wife, has just as much to say. He is quick to make small talk and to relate to whomever he is talking to. Jon is lucky to have a family that is quick to get a second opinion, and doesn’t blindly accept what they are told.
When the original surgeon at another hospital told them that teaching Jon sign on top of English was not a good option, they consulted another surgeon.
“I have a lot of respect for her but she has a very strong stance against signing with an implanted child,” Nicole said. “She was like, ‘that’s really not a very successful way to go.’ We ended up walking out of there with more questions than we had answers.”
Jon, now an energetic 15-month-old infant, has some of both the hearing and deaf worlds. At eight months, he underwent surgery to be fitted with cochlear implants at the University of Chicago Comer Children’s Hospital. He was the youngest child to be implanted bilaterally at the hospital. Typically when someone is implanted, they will only get one implant. In Jon’s case, he has two, making hearing more natural.
Jon wore a modified breathing mask to fit his tiny face while he was put under. His mother held his hand until he fell asleep.
“He’s a very trusting little boy, which probably made it even more heartbreaking,” Nicole said. “I laid him on the table, and they put this itty-bitty mask over his mouth and nose. I watched him fall asleep. He just kind of looked at me, his eyes got really happy. It was leaving the room that I really felt it. I was like, whoa.”
The surgery involved making relatively small incisions behind each ear, then drilling small holes into the skull and inserting the internal components into the inner ear.
The biggest concern in Nicole and David’s minds was if they were doing the right thing. The surgery was not medically necessary, and did carry some risk, Nicole said. They both agreed that the entire process was the longest nine hours of their lives.
“We are willingly putting our child in to have a procedure done, and it’s really not necessary,” David said. “We could have basically done nothing [and] raised him in deaf culture. We looked into it, trying to determine what was best for him. It’s not what’s best for us. It’s his life that we’re playing with.”
After surgery was when the true struggle began. They are in the first of many years of audio therapy to give Jon the best chance of talking like his hearing peers.
Cochlear implants provide hope for many families that their child will be able to perfectly assimilate into the hearing world, the Thompsons said. They have a path that is less primrose and more practical, David said.
“A lot of parents seem to think that if they do the implants that their kid is fixed and that he’s hearing, which is ridiculous,” David said. “He’s deaf, he can’t hear a thing right now [Jon had his implants off at the time]. We don’t have any illusions. We understand that when he has them off he has to be able to communicate.”
The Thompsons had several reasons behind their choice to implant Jon so young, one of which was the delicate timeframe in which humans learn language.
“Between zero and three [years] is your real opportunity,” said Dana Suskind, the surgeon who did Jon’s implants. “Oral language is so important for you to be able to read. If you’ve never heard the word dog, it’s much harder to read it. If you don’t get it early, those brain connections that help you with spoken language [do not develop.] The older you are, the more difficult it becomes to develop oral language.”
Another reason was more personally focused, as Nicole noted. They want to be able to hear Jon talk.
“We’re hearing parents, we want our child to say ‘mommy’ and ‘daddy,’” Nicole said. “Let’s be honest. It’s kind of a selfish choice too. I want my son to be able to look at me and say, ‘Mommy I love you.’ That’s just as much of a part of the motivation as it is to give him every opportunity. I don’t think a lot of parents admit that.”
A scenario David explained was if an implanted child had a nightmare and came to his parents for comfort in the middle of the night, speaking is not an option, as the child does not have his or her implants on at night.
“[If] our kid comes in our bedroom at night, scared, he’s had a nightmare, and wants to be in our bed, he can’t hear me,” David said. “I can’t tell them to go into bed, all they see is a moving face and hands, and they don’t understand what that means.”
While they have tried to provide him with every opportunity, every path possible, they openly acknowledge and embrace the fact that the final choice is his.
“Looking into the future, if at some point in time he decides that he does not want to have the implants on anymore for the rest of his life, that’s fine too,” David said. “We want to build a base where he will be able to float between the world of deaf culture and the world of the hearing.”
From their long-term plan for Jon to the cavalier way they handled a potentially earth-shattering bit of news, the Thompsons are unique in the best way.
David summed up this quirkiness well. When discussing the entire process, he just smiled and said, completely honestly, “It’s fun.”
I wrote this article while interning with Tribune Company. The article was ultimately published all over Tribune’s multiple properties, including the Chicago Tribune.
Snack time is going wonderfully until your baby begins screaming, throwing Cheerios on the floor. Perturbed and not understanding, you attempt to put her down for a nap. She throws a temper tantrum and you both end up agitated and confused. For most parents, this scenario is quite possible. Babies can’t talk. They haven’t had time to work the muscles that control their vocal cords, nor do they know how to coordinate their breathing, mouth movement and tongue placement to produce speech. But this does not mean they cannot communicate.
The Cheerio incident happened to Laura Berg, a teacher of baby sign, who promotes teaching toddlers hand signs in place of spoken language. Her daughter, Fireese (pronounced fur-eez), was trained in baby sign. While she was throwing her Cheerios on the ground, Fireese was also signing the word “more.” Laura asked “more what?” and her daughter responded “more cheese.” “The fact that my ten-month old could put together two words in sign, and say she wanted something salty rather than sweet was amazing to me,” said Berg.
Indeed, signing is proven to increase vocabulary in children before they utter their first word. Fireese is now three, and is reading years ahead of her age group. Berg runs a baby sign company called “My Smart Hands.” Her daughter is “the most popular signing baby on the Internet.” A video of her signing has gotten more than one million views on YouTube. Berg has spoken at universities across the country and has formal training in education. There are numerous Web sites for teaching baby sign, via class instruction, in-home videos, games and online dictionaries.
“We all teach our babies sign language, very simple signs, like waving bye-bye or clapping to express delight, or pointing. So by adding to these natural gestures that we’re teaching we can give them more useful signs so that they are less frustrated,” said Kathleen Waidhofer, who began Baby Hand Productions. She said some common first signs to teach a baby are eat, drink, milk and more.
Baby sign is also versatile, lending itself to the classroom setting as well as a bridge between languages and to help special education children. “As an educator, having some special needs kids in my room, other teachers would say ‘why don’t you use this sign for me or this sign for potty,'” said LynnMarie Wood, a preschool teacher who signs with her two adopted children. “My daughter was adopted from China at 15 months. She had no Chinese; she had never been exposed to English. We started with signs in China, so even before we left, she was using some basics. She picked up ‘more’ and ‘all done,'” said Wood.
“The most popular reason for signing is early communication,” said Berg. By being in communication with your child, temper tantrums and frustration is limited. Sign has taken off in the last decade dispelling negative effects as scientific studies and word of mouth proved otherwise. Studies at Ohio State University and other institutions have shown overwhelmingly positive results.
“Parents always ask, ‘are there any drawbacks?’ I think parents are worried that they are going to rely on sign and that it will inhibit their speech. That is 100 percent untrue,” explained Berg. Children begin speaking at different ages, and little can be done to advance this age. By signing, parents can ensure a means to communicate with their child. When their child does begin speaking, he or she will more quickly learn words, Berg explains.
“I think people are very receptive to it. I especially think that educated, upper-middle class people are receptive to it. Educated people, in a higher socio-economic class seem to be open to more innovative ways of learning and exposing their kids to different ways to learning,” said Wood. Mainstream coverage, such as in the movie “Meet the Parents,” has also contributed. As generation X and Y comes of age, they may be more attuned to newer education methods with the Internet providing a wealth of options. Many online baby sign dictionaries are available, as well as informational sites.
“After you’ve taken care of the basic needs, probably one of the most human needs is to be understood. If you offer your baby five to 10 signs before they are able to speak, it will solve a lot of frustration and help you bond… All babies can sign,” said Waidhofer.
This piece originally appeared in the Windy City Times.
Dawn Clark Netsch has been a fierce advocate for the LGBT population before it included powerful fundraising dollars, significant election votes or even safety. Netsch pushed for a non-discrimination law a full 20 years before it passed, and has been ahead of the trend on most other issues.
The former Illinois senator and comptroller celebrated her 85th birthday Sept. 16. Windy City Times sat down with her in her longtime Northwestern University office. ( She is a professor at the university’s law school. )
As the interview started, Netsch was sifting through old campaign materials. Among them was one of her newsletters from her time in the state legislature. The piece—dating back to the early ’80s, when she was a state lawmaker—mentions her endorsement by the Greater Chicago Gay and Lesbian Democrats. Her acknowledgment of the group’s support was among the first such instances for an LGBT political group. Netsch didn’t think anything of it—they were supporting her, after all.